Forum Membership

The membership of this forum is generally restricted to members of Alcoholics Anonymous only. While no formal test will be administered to ensure active A.A. membership, conversations among members presume a familiarity with the A.A. program of recovery, our guiding principles as expressed and experienced in our 12 Steps, 12 Traditions and, 12 Concepts. For example, it can be assumed there is an appreciation for anonymity as a guiding spiritual principle in all our open discussions in the TIAA-Forum community.

Policy for inclusion of non-AA and vendor participants to TIAA-Forum

In an effort to broaden the level of experience and discussion on the TIAA-Forum we will include Non-AA persons and persons who represent vendors to AA entities. The following will apply to their admission:

  • Their sole purpose for requesting admission is to interact with AA members and assist them in understanding how technology may be utilized for AA purposes.
  • The understanding be that anonymity of AA members will always take precedent over any decision they may make or discussion they may have.
  • That some connection to Alcoholics Anonymous be present, whether that be as an Al-Anon member, an employee of an AA entity such as the GSO, or vendor for an AA entity such as a local AA office.
  • Offerings of information be the primary focus of their use of their membership.
  • Membership for the purpose of marketing will be prohibited.
  • Special offerings can only be made with the approval of the TIAA-Forum administrators.

This is a Civilized Place for Public Discussion

Please treat this discussion forum with the same respect you would a public park. We, too, are a shared community resource — a place to share skills, knowledge and interests through ongoing conversation.

These are not hard and fast rules, merely aids to the human judgment of our community. Use these guidelines to keep this a clean, well-lighted place for civilized public discourse.

Improve the Discussion

Help us make this a great place for discussion by always working to improve the discussion in some way, however small. If you are not sure your post adds to the conversation, think over what you want to say and try again later.

The topics discussed here matter to us, and we want you to act as if they matter to you, too. Be respectful of the topics and the people discussing them, even if you disagree with some of what is being said.

One way to improve the discussion is by discovering ones that are already happening. Please spend some time browsing the topics here before replying or starting your own, and you’ll have a better chance of meeting others who share your interests.

Be Agreeable, Even When You Disagree

You may wish to respond to something by disagreeing with it. That’s fine. But, remember to criticize ideas, not people. Please avoid:

  • Name-calling.
  • Ad hominem attacks.
  • Responding to a post’s tone instead of its actual content.
  • Knee-jerk contradiction.

Instead, provide reasoned counter-arguments that improve the conversation.

Your Participation Counts

The conversations we have here set the tone for everyone. Help us influence the future of this community by choosing to engage in discussions that make this forum an interesting place to be — and avoiding those that do not.

Discourse provides tools that enable the community to collectively identify the best (and worst) contributions: favorites, bookmarks, likes, flags, replies, edits, and so forth. Use these tools to improve your own experience, and everyone else’s, too.

Let’s try to leave our park better than we found it.

If You See a Problem, Flag It

Moderators have special authority; they are responsible for this forum. But so are you. With your help, moderators can be community facilitators, not just janitors or police.

When you see bad behavior, don’t reply. It encourages the bad behavior by acknowledging it, consumes your energy, and wastes everyone’s time. Just flag it. If enough flags accrue, action will be taken, either automatically or by moderator intervention.

In order to maintain our community, moderators reserve the right to remove any content and any user account for any reason at any time. Moderators do not preview new posts in any way; the moderators and site operators take no responsibility for any content posted by the community.

Always Be Civil

Nothing sabotages a healthy conversation like rudeness:

  • Be civil. Don’t post anything that a reasonable person would consider offensive, abusive, or hate speech.
  • Keep it clean. Don’t post anything obscene or sexually explicit.
  • Respect each other. Don’t harass or grief anyone, impersonate people, or expose their private information.
  • Respect our forum. Don’t post spam or otherwise vandalize the forum.

These are not concrete terms with precise definitions — avoid even the appearance of any of these things. If you’re unsure, ask yourself how you would feel if your post was featured on the front page of the New York Times.

This is a public forum, and search engines index these discussions. Keep the language, links, and images safe for family and friends.

Keep It Tidy

Make the effort to put things in the right place, so that we can spend more time discussing and less cleaning up. So:

  • Don’t start a topic in the wrong category.
  • Don’t cross-post the same thing in multiple topics.
  • Don’t post no-content replies.
  • Don’t divert a topic by changing it midstream.
  • Don’t sign your posts — every post has your profile information attached to it.

Rather than posting “+1” or “Agreed”, use the Like button. Rather than taking an existing topic in a radically different direction, use Reply as a Linked Topic.

Post Only Your Own Stuff

You may not post anything digital that belongs to someone else without permission. You may not post descriptions of, links to, or methods for stealing someone’s intellectual property (software, video, audio, images), or for breaking any other law.

Products and Services Category

  • The TIAA-Forum hosts a Products and Services Category solely for the purpose of facilitating the opportunity for any members to offer their products/services to TIAA-Forum members. TIAA-forum administrators and moderators may move posts to this category from other categories if it seems the interest of the post is commercial in nature.
  • Each product/service listing must include a full description of what is offered and an external link for additional information. Business transactions should be conducted outside of the forum.
  • The provider/client relationship is solely between the provider and their client and does not include the TIAA-Forum.
  • The TIAA-Forum makes no guarantees, nor offers any warranty, on products or services provided here.
  • In order to post products or services, those products or services must not have any implied or expressed affiliation with, or endorsement of, Alcoholics Anonymous or the TIAA-Forum.

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Terms of Service

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